How to Overcome Haters
Okay Bitches, here it is! So I was just sitting at my computer listening to some music on Spotify, browsing the Facebook and I noticed a lot of energy going around about people being disrespectful and undermining other individuals. Basically these bastards were Hating on someone, hating on my FB peeps and you know that shit is not okay with me! Especially when I can tell it is effecting them and taking them to a place of dis-empowerment and fear. So you know what that means right? Naturally I consulted the Oracle. I asked what can we do to ward of those unwanted energies, what can we do to get rid of the shitty people in our life and how do we do it and still keep our integrity! I’m still working on my Hater-Be-Gone Magical Gem Elixir Trust me it will be made buahahaha! Anyways that is not the answer (yet muahaha). So let’s get to it shall we? The Oracle of Shadows & Light have spoken! BOOM!
- Violet Duchess: Stifled, bored and stuck
- Death and the Maiden: Invasion, boundaries violated, dominance.
- The Fairy of the Green World: The natural world needs you.
Well this is an interesting mix. Okay the last bit is what is interesting to me but hey can’t deny the Spirits now can ya? Well you could but what the hell for when you are asking them for insight BAHAHA! So what I am being told right now is that as much as you would like to keep the harmony and balance within your relationships you need to really contemplate what it is you are desiring in this relationship. You are getting shit from so many different people and it’s taking it’s toll. You want to keep silent at some points because you don’t want to be disrespectful and out of respect for the other individuals involved but this will only last so long. What needs to be done is for you to express yourself. When someone is hating on you you don’t need to explain to them your position. You cannot justify anything to those who want to tear you down because in their eyes they don’t have the problem, the problem is actually you. But we know the truth so when dealing with these people you need to address whether they are in your life long term or not and if these people are actually healthy relationships or not and if not what are you going to do about it. You need to create a safe exit strategy because you do not deserve to be torn down constantly. You must know that when people are trying to bring you down, you do not need to feel stuck nor do you need to feel overwhelmed. Do not allow these people to have a hold over you.
These individuals are attracted to you because you are everything they desire to be or to have in life. You emit this energy and they can pick up on your amazing vibes and so they have to surround themselves with you. They are so close that it feels overwhelming, you feel that they are invading your space and you don’t know how to get out of this. They want to bring you down in order to raise themselves up. If you want to get rid of this dis-empowered feeling, this fear or depressive perception about yourself due to what they say then you need to create very firm boundaries. You need to define what you will and will not accept into your life. They even think they are admiring you and being a good friend or partner but they at times don’t see the damage they are doing. So turn around and face those Haters, speak your truth but again do not try and reason with them. Say what needs to be said and let it go, move on and let them go if necessary.
This is a process. The energy that they pick up on emits from you. You may not be able to control what the Haters say to you and how they try to get at you but what you can definitely control is the energy that you put out into the world. When someone is really speaking some negative things into your ears just breathe and for a moment visualize the earth, the world that you desire to see, the situation handled exactly as you desire it would be handled. Breathe and let go of all those negative vibes they are sending your way and replace it with some powerful visualization and good vibes that you will create for yourself. Focus on the natural world around you, focus on the trees, the earth, the soil beneath your feet, the ocean, bring to your mind the serenity of the earth and its glorious images.
So remember that there is definitely a time and a place to bite your tongue and hold yourself in silence but do not feel like you MUST do this at all times and when someone is truly speaking some harsh and harmful things into your presence, know that you have the right to stand up for yourself and speak up regardless of who it is. Create very distinct boundaries for yourself and do not allow people to cross them and be sure to get out into the world and re-connect with all that you are.
So now I leave you with a fun little exercise to do to combat those Haters! My little Hater Be-Gone exercise hahaha!
Visualize yourself on a Beach, you hear the waves crashing in and flowing out..
You start hearing the chatter that your target (the hater) is speaking.. They are a few feet away from you but they are getting closer and louder. Now surround yourself with black fire. See its flames get large and sway fluidly around you. It’s cool to your touch but to all those who mean to do you harm or speak negativity into your life, when their words hit it, when they hit it they are hit with a jolt and get sent flying back. So see the words being burned by the fire and if the person continues see the fire consume them and take them away from your current space. When this is done pick up the ashes from all the negative words and throw them to the ocean.
Affirm: “I let go of all negative thought patterns being sent my way, I Claim my own power and call my own power back to me NOW!”
Spend a few minutes enjoying the ocean experience and then boom come back to your full body awareness.
I love doing this! I love using fire because it easily transforms. Try this out, work with it and let me know what your experiences are with it!
In closing I leave you with another great piece of bloggage! While googling haters, the hater mentality and so forth I came across this blog that caught my eye. I thought it was well worth the read: